Did you ever feel like you lost your head at work because someone demanded a conversation with you that you do not remember? Is it possible that you really said you wanted the project done, even though you knew you had to get out at to get your child to a football game? Chances are good that you have experienced gas lighting at work.
What is a gas light? Gas lighting is when someone demands something you know is wrong, which makes you question your own memory. In some ways, it is a form of manipulation and bullying because it nullifies what you know is true and makes you feel powerless. Gas lighters are good at translating facts and taking real data and using it against others.
When there is gas lighting in the workplace, it is likely to be done by someone with a position of power and authority, or someone who is well preserved, in which case the victims are unlikely to call this toxic employee. And the more it is not inspected, the more you can end up with someone else to guess for yourself what is reality and what is not. Here’s what you need to know about gas lighting and what you can do to stop it should it happen to you or a team member.
How to detect gas lighting at work There is a big difference between a micromanager or a person who chooses your job and a gas lighter. Gasoline does not want you to get better or thrive – they sabotage you.
They accuse you of embarrassment or mistake or of taking something they said wrong because you are unsure. They can even manipulate paper webs to prove them right.