You may be surprised to hear that many admirable people are already doing so.
Not sure what to do in a particular situation? Lie your self-esteem and pretend you know how to move forward when you figure it out. You may feel like a charlatan, but it turns out that there is something very real about the benefits of counterfeiting it.
True Trust vs. False Trust Learning about false trust can actually teach you to be more confident. People who enter a new situation with confidence and feel self-esteem — real or imagined — are seen more positively and achieve a higher position in the group, according to a study by Gavin Kilduff and Adam Galinsky, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.
Here’s the magic:
Not only do others believe in you – you can even believe in yourself. When you practice confident behavior, your thoughts and feelings about your abilities will eventually become more positive. It’s true that this doesn’t happen overnight, and even top executives struggle with low self-esteem – but don’t let that ignore you. See the following tips on how you can best fake it until you do it. (Don’t worry: your secret is safe with us.)
Use the right attitude Remember when your teachers asked you to sit up straight? It’s time to start following your advice, especially regarding body language. Shrinking and losing weight don’t inspire confidence, nor is it too nice to kick your feet on the table. This doesn’t mean you have to march around your nose in the air and fist on your hips, but standing high not only feels good, but also looks good. By getting your body to adopt a safe attitude, your mind will follow.
Pay attention to your eye contact Learn to fake self-esteem, start with your eyes; They are dead gifts regardless of whether you feel safe in the situation or not. If you look someone in the eye, you are engaged; blocking your eyes means you can fight the situation. The goal is to look people in the eye comfortably without them feeling like you’re staring at them down. Natural Eye Contact humanizes you to other people, which helps them (and you) feel good.
Pay special attention to how you use eye contact during and during the greeting. It is also important to look people in the eye during the conversation to show that you are still present and listening. Develop an Optimistic Attitude When you face a challenge, many face it.